I just got off the phone with my mom and dad. They're over in DC right now with my sister. I wish Austin and I had been able to go, but it really was for the better that we stayed here. So here's the latest: my sister immediately met this guy named D and he is utterly smitten by her. Of course there are drawbacks [he's a freshman, 18, a virgin, and they literally met before the start of classes]. My sister will be 21 in a few weeks, she's a sophomore/junior transfer, definitely not a virgin and is interested in exploring her options and focusing on school rather than getting a boyfriend off the bat. The most interesting twist: he's been there for her when she's needed it the most. She told me the cutest story of him bringing her chinese and waiting until 2am for her while she found her way home and then staying up with her until 4 and making sure that she took the food despite not being hungry because he knew she'd need food in the morning. I'm missing details, but the guy is totally sweet. But she's fighting it.
Well my mom and aunt are apparently all up in arms over the fact that some dude is trying to talk to my sister. Like he's some crazy axe murderer or something. And while that's a possibility, my dad did a background check on him and found out that he's from the Virgin Islands, had a 4.0 GPA and was valedictorian for his high school, and is at Howard University now with plans to attend Yale post graduation and become an attorney. Um...WOW. Does he have a brother. [just kidding hubs. I like my men like soldiers..lol] They think he's obsessive. I think he's amazing.
Well it got me thinking. They're problem is that they don't want her to get sidetracked or offtrack with her goals. She's famous for doing that [In high school, partying became more important than her lawyer career aspirations]. And while I can see that being a legit concern, they actually added this: Don't leave school with a husband and a bunch of babies.
Uhm. Is that what *I* did? Did I get sidetracked? Did I lose focus of my goal? Is that what you think of me? Because I followed my heart and decided that while yes, I wanted to be a musician/elementary school teacher, love sometimes doesn't wait....then I've obviously lost focus of my goals? I don't know if I agree with that. Yes, I took two years off from school. But need I remind you, my oh-so-awesome bio-father [note the sarcasm] decided he'd rather NOT pay tuition and it was too late for me to do anything about it. Hence the FIRST leave of absence. The Second? Well, I was pregnant, still considered single because I did the FAFSA before I married Charlie, and we couldn't swing $500 a month to pay tuition. And now, here I am. I did my paperwork on the 1st of January, I've been completely and totally proactive with school. I'm enrolled and ready to finish my degree. WHY? Because I have a family! You know, that family that you think "SIDETRACKED" me? Yea..inSTEAD..I'm MOTIVATED. I WANT to finish. I WANT to be a good example. I WANT to do more than just be a super awesome barista because I WANT more for them.
I'm just saying. Falling in love and deciding that it's more important than a career that will always be there doesn't mean you've lost focus. You can't fight what you feel. And I'll be damned if I ever let what society views as successful cost me what I ultimately want: a happy, healthy family all because two people fell in love and ran with it.